Queer Sex Ed for WSW: STIs, Testing, and Dental Dams
A lot of people think that women who have sex with women (WSW) are at low risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs), but that’s just not true. STIs like bacterial vaginosis (BV), herpes, HPV, chlamydia, and trichomoniasis don’t discriminate. They can absolutely be transmitted between partners, yes, even without penetration.
And here’s the kicker: many STIs don’t come with flashy symptoms. You or your partner could be carrying something without knowing it. That’s why regular STI testing is a must, not just for you but for the health of everyone you get naked with. Early detection means fewer complications (like infertility) and less risk of passing infections along.
Why Does This Myth Exist?
LGBTQ+ health has been sidelined HARD in mainstream conversations, which has led to serious gaps in education and care. A lot of sex ed still focuses on penis-in-vagina sex, leaving queer folks without the info they need to stay safe. And when STI prevention is seen as a “heterosexual issue,” people in queer relationships don’t always get tested as often as they should.
How to Break Down Barriers to STI Testing in Queer Communities
Let’s fix that. Here’s how:
Talk About It: Let’s end the stigma! Open conversations about queer sexual health make testing and safer sex normal, not taboo.
Find Queer-Inclusive Providers: Not all doctors are well-versed in LGBTQ+ sexual health. Look for healthcare professionals who get it and won’t make assumptions about your sex life.
Get the Right Sex Ed: Advocate for and seek out inclusive resources that address queer sexual health needs. We all deserve access to accurate, affirming information!
Prioritize Mental Health Too: Facing discrimination and stigma can make accessing healthcare feel extra intimidating. Clinics that integrate mental health support can make getting tested way less stressful.
Pro Tip: Ask for STI screenings at your regular checkups, don’t wait for symptoms to show up. Prioritizing your sexual health keeps you and your community safer.
What Is a Dental Dam and Why Should You Use One?
You’ve probably heard of condoms, but what about their underrated cousin, the dental dam? It’s a thin sheet of latex or polyurethane that acts as a barrier during oral sex, protecting against STIs like herpes, gonorrhea, and HPV.
Even though they’ve been around since the 80s, dental dams are still criminally underused, especially among WSW. But they’re a great way to lower STI risks during oral sex.
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How to Use a Dental Dam
Check the packaging- Make sure it’s intact and not expired.
Lube it up- A little water-based or silicone-based lube makes things feel way better and keeps the dam in place. Avoid oil-based lube, which can break down latex.
Position it properly- Lay it flat over the vulva or anus, keeping it secure during oral play.
Toss it after use- One and done! Never reuse a dental dam.
DIY Dental Dam Hack
Can’t find one? No problem. Just grab a condom and:
✂️ Snip off the tip and base.
✂️ Slice it lengthwise.
🛑 Voila! Instant dental dam.
Where to Find Dental Dams
Dental dams can be a little tricky to find, but you can grab them online, at some pharmacies, or from sexual health clinics like Planned Parenthood. Increasing access and awareness is key to making them a more common safer sex tool.
